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When family triangulation makes you the messenger

My mom calls me every day to talk about how worried she is about my brother's drinking but she won't talk to him directly about it. I'm caught between them both and I think I'm enabling something but I don't know what or how to stop.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Being positioned as the bridge between two people's unexpressed fears is creating a false intimacy that serves no one.

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