My mom is getting older and starting to need more help but she won't admit it and my siblings and I can't agree on how much to push her to accept support versus respecting her independence. We're all afraid of different things and it's creating tension between us when we should be working together.
More people experience this than they realize.
Multiple people who love someone are discovering that protection and respect can pull in opposite directions, and fear makes different people want to control different things.
“Where Are You with Desire and its changes over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.