My partner and I both have trauma histories and sometimes we trigger each other without meaning to, then we're both activated and nobody can be the calm one. We've learned to recognize when it's happening but we still don't know how to get out of those spirals together.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two wounded people trying to love each other can find themselves in cycles where neither can offer what both need.
“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.