Periagoge
Scenario

When both partners have trauma and trigger each other

My partner and I both have trauma histories and sometimes we trigger each other without meaning to, then we're both activated and nobody can be the calm one. We've learned to recognize when it's happening but we still don't know how to get out of those spirals together.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two wounded people trying to love each other can find themselves in cycles where neither can offer what both need.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.