My partner and I have been trying to have a baby for two years and every month when it doesn't happen we comfort each other but also blame each other in ways we can't quite say out loud, and the wanting is starting to poison the loving.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared hope deferred is becoming shared resentment, even between people who love each other deeply.
“Where Are You with Metta — Buddhist loving-kindness?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.