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When couples recreate their family patterns in conflict

My partner and I keep having the same fight where I shut down when things get intense and they chase harder, just like what happened in both our families growing up. We both see the pattern but can't seem to break out of it even when we recognize it happening in real time.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're trapped in an inherited dance of pursuit and withdrawal that feels both familiar and destructive.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

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