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When couples with different attraction styles plan a life together

My partner is demisexual and I'm very much not, and we're trying to plan our wedding while having these deep conversations about what physical intimacy means to each of us and how we build a marriage that honors both of our ways of experiencing attraction. Our families keep asking questions we can't answer yet and we're feeling pressure to have it all figured out.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are learning that building intimacy requires understanding fundamentally different ways of experiencing desire.

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