My partner keeps telling me I'm too hard on myself and I keep telling them they don't take care of themselves enough, and we're both probably right but we're stuck in this loop where we're trying to love each other into loving ourselves and it's not working.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are attempting to heal each other's self-relationship from the outside, creating a cycle where love becomes conditional on self-improvement.
“Where Are You with Self-love — what it actually means?”
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