My partner makes three times what I do and we've been splitting everything 50/50 for two years but I'm drowning and can't keep up with their lifestyle expectations. Every time money comes up we both get defensive in different ways and I don't know how to talk about this without it feeling like I'm asking for charity or they're being controlling.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are trying to build a life together while navigating the power dynamics and practical realities of significantly different earning capacities.
“Where Are You with Love and money — financial stress in relationships?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.