My roommate and I are both single and dating, but she's having much more success than I am and I'm starting to resent coming home to hear about her good dates while mine keep disappointing. We used to commiserate together and now I feel petty for not being able to just be happy for her.
More people experience this than they realize.
Proximity to someone else's joy can illuminate the depth of one's own longing in ways that feel shameful.
“Where Are You with Single and Searching?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.