My sister and I both have strong opinions about how to handle our mom's drinking problem, but we can't agree on whether confronting her will help or make things worse. She thinks I'm enabling by being gentle, I think she's being too harsh, and meanwhile Mom is getting worse while we argue about the right approach.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same person are paralyzed by their different theories of how to save her.
“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”
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