My sister and I both struggle with conflict in our relationships because our parents never fought in front of us but also never seemed to resolve anything. Now when she and her husband have issues or when I have problems with my boyfriend, we don't know how to help each other because we never learned what healthy conflict resolution looks like.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're both trying to learn something your family never modeled while supporting each other through the gaps.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.