My sister and I have been alternating weeks caring for our mom who has dementia, and we've developed completely different approaches — she's all structure and routine, I'm more about following mom's moods — and now mom seems confused by the inconsistency but we can't agree on how to handle it. We both love her fiercely but we're starting to resent each other's methods.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same person are discovering that love alone doesn't guarantee compatible ways of caring.
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