My sister and I have been planning our mom's memorial service together and we keep getting into fights about details that don't actually matter — the flowers, the music, who speaks when. I think we're both just looking for ways to control something when everything feels out of control.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're both trying to honor the same love through rituals that feel inadequate to the magnitude of your loss.
“Where Are You with Patterns in who we love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.