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When siblings disagree on caring for aging parents with different philosophies

My sister and I have been taking care of our mom with dementia for three years and we've developed completely different approaches — she wants to preserve mom's independence at all costs, I want to prioritize safety — and every decision becomes a battle where we're both right and both exhausted.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who love the same person deeply are being torn apart by equally valid but incompatible ways of expressing that love.

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