My sister and I started practicing loving-kindness meditation to help heal our relationship after years of conflict, but we keep getting stuck when we try to extend metta to our father who hurt us both, and we can't agree on whether forced forgiveness is spiritual growth or spiritual bypassing.
More people experience this than they realize.
The tension between authentic forgiveness and premature spiritual bypass becomes acute when practicing metta toward shared sources of trauma.
“Where Are You with Metta — Buddhist loving-kindness?”
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