My spouse and I disagree about how much to financially support our extended families and it's become this ongoing source of resentment. They think I give too much to my siblings, I think they're too stingy with theirs, and we're both feeling judged for how we love our families.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different family histories create different understandings of obligation that can make partners feel alien to each other.
“Where Are You with Ubuntu love — the communal dimension?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.