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When friend groups maintain connection without intimacy

My two best friends from high school and I used to talk every day, but since we graduated college and scattered to different cities, our group chat has become this performative space where we all pretend we're staying close but none of us are sharing anything real anymore.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Sometimes the tools meant to preserve closeness become barriers to it, leaving everyone performing a friendship that no longer exists.

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