My wife and I are both high achievers who used to motivate each other, but now we're both burned out and instead of supporting each other we keep comparing who's more exhausted, who's sacrificing more, who deserves to rest.
More people experience this than they realize.
The very dynamic that once lifted you both up has become a way of keeping score in a game where you're both losing.
“Where Are You with Attachment style in choosing partners?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.