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When partners have different social needs and energy levels

My wife and I both love our friends but we've realized we have completely different social energy levels and it's causing tension — she thinks I don't make enough effort with people and I feel exhausted by the amount of social time she needs from us as a couple.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who chose each other are discovering that their natural rhythms of connection with the wider world feel mutually exclusive.

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