My wife and I disagree about how much to help our adult son who keeps making choices that worry us, and we've started undermining each other — she gives him money when I say no, I lecture him when she wants to stay supportive.
More people experience this than they realize.
Love can turn partners into opponents when there are no clear answers about how much help helps and how much hurts.
“Where Are You with Loneliness and the Desire for Connection?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.