My wife and I have completely different relationships to physical affection - she needs emotional connection before physical intimacy and I often need physical closeness to feel emotionally connected - and we're both starting to feel rejected by the other.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're each offering what you would want to receive, creating a cycle where both people feel unseen.
“Where Are You with Sexual intimacy and its relationship to love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.