Our family is torn apart because when Dad had his sudden heart attack, some of us feel guilty that we didn't see it coming while others are angry that Mom had been worried about his health for months and we dismissed her concerns. Every family gathering becomes a referendum on whether we failed him.
More people experience this than they realize.
A family is wrestling with the terrible question of whether love requires the ability to predict loss, and whether their different levels of worry beforehand now define their worthiness as caregivers.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.