We fell in love partly because we both believed relationships should be 'easy' if they're right, but three years in we're discovering that we actually have to work at this and we both feel a little betrayed by that reality. We're good at loving each other when it's flowing naturally but terrible at loving each other through the mundane friction of building a life together.
More people experience this than they realize.
The fantasy of effortless love often collides with the reality that sustainable intimacy requires skills neither person was taught.
“Where Are You with The Examined Love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.