During my father's funeral I kept thinking about work deadlines and felt horrible that my mind wandered to mundane things when I should have been fully present for him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Grief demands presence but trauma scatters attention, creating shame about the mind's protective mechanisms.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.