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When abandonment anxiety sabotages relationships

Every time my boyfriend gets quiet I assume he's planning to leave me, just like my dad left when I was eight without saying goodbye.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The original abandonment creates a hypervigilant state that turns normal distance into existential threat.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.