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When gratitude for refuge conflicts with grief for loss

Everyone assumes I should be grateful to be here and I am, but gratitude doesn't cancel out the fact that everything familiar was taken from me.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The social expectation of immigrant gratitude invalidates legitimate mourning for what was sacrificed in survival.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost homeland — diaspora mourning?”

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