LibraryScenariosHow to handle pressure to idealize the deceased
Scenario

How to handle pressure to idealize the deceased

Everyone keeps telling me how brave my mom was fighting cancer, but she was actually cruel and bitter the whole time and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.

Mira
Online
The coach is replying

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Death does not automatically sanctify a life that was difficult to love.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and relief — complex feelings after difficult deaths?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.