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Scenario

How to handle pressure to idealize the deceased

Everyone keeps telling me how brave my mom was fighting cancer, but she was actually cruel and bitter the whole time and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Death does not automatically sanctify a life that was difficult to love.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and relief — complex feelings after difficult deaths?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.