He has survivor's guilt from 9/11 and feels like he doesn't deserve happiness and sabotages good moments between us and I don't know how to convince him he's worthy of love.
More people experience this than they realize.
Guilt can make someone push away the very joy that could heal them.
“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.