I am embarrassed by how much my Ethiopian boyfriend's family does for me when I visit because I cannot reciprocate at that level, and I worry they think I am ungrateful or cheap.
More people experience this than they realize.
Generous cultural norms can create shame spirals for those unable to match unfamiliar standards of reciprocity.
“Where Are You with Love Languages Across Cultures?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.