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Scenario

Why kindness feels wrong when cruelty felt like home

I can only feel attracted to men who are mean to me and I know it's sick but kindness feels like pity or manipulation.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system adapted to cruelty reads gentleness as either weakness or deception rather than genuine care.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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