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Scenario

When you don't want to honor someone's memory

I feel like I should visit my father's grave but I hated him when he was alive and it feels hypocritical to pretend death changed anything.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Grief rituals assume love that may never have existed and cannot be manufactured by death.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and relief — complex feelings after difficult deaths?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.