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When forgiveness feels like abandoning yourself

I forgave my rapist in a restorative justice program last year and now I question whether that was healing or just another way of taking care of everyone else before myself.

Mira
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The pressure to forgive can become another form of violence against our own need for justice and time.

Ideas that help explain it
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