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Scenario

When your child alters their appearance for the deceased

I found my ten-year-old cutting her own hair because she said she wants to look different so her dad would recognize her in heaven.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A child's physical transformation reflects deep confusion about death and identity, as they reshape themselves to maintain connection across the divide.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Children and grief — supporting young people?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.