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Scenario

Why you defend your ex-spouse to others despite being hurt

I found myself defending him to my friend who was criticizing how he treated me and realized I still feel married to protecting him.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Loyalty outlasts love in ways that complicate healing, making us guardians of those who wounded us most deeply.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost relationships — ambiguous loss of divorce?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.