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Why you defend your ex-spouse to others despite being hurt

I found myself defending him to my friend who was criticizing how he treated me and realized I still feel married to protecting him.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Loyalty outlasts love in ways that complicate healing, making us guardians of those who wounded us most deeply.

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