I found out my father had another family after he died and now I do not know if I should grieve the man I thought he was or be angry at the lie my whole life has been.
More people experience this than they realize.
Posthumous revelations can murder our version of the dead, leaving us to mourn both the person and our illusions about them.
“Where Are You with Grief and anger — the rage underneath?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.