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Whether compassion toward former enemies is genuine or performative

I found out my middle school bully was struggling with homelessness through a mutual friend, and I keep wondering if I should reach out or if that would just be self-serving.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desire to extend grace to those who hurt us can become complicated by questions of motive and the risk of further harm.

Ideas that help explain it
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