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Why Some People Share Pain Selectively

I found out my sister talks to my mother about her problems but never calls me when she's struggling and I feel like I'm not good enough to be trusted with her pain.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The geography of trust is mysterious terrain, and being excluded from someone's suffering can feel like exile from their love.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Emotional Availability?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.