I have been keeping a candle lit continuously for my grandmother for two months and I am exhausted by the vigilance but afraid that letting it go out means I am giving up on keeping her memory alive.
More people experience this than they realize.
Memorial practices can evolve into compulsions where stopping feels like abandonment, trapping the griever in unsustainable cycles of remembrance.
“Where Are You with Memorial practices and keeping memory alive?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.