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When attraction feels too intense for a long marriage

I have been married for twenty years and I still get nervous butterflies when my husband comes home, but I worry this means I never really relaxed into the relationship.

Mira
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The persistence of desire can feel as unsettling as its absence, questioning what constitutes healthy attachment.

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