Periagoge
Scenario

When you hire someone to say kaddish for your parent

I hired someone to say kaddish for my father because I don't know Hebrew well enough and I feel like I'm paying someone else to love him for me.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Outsourcing sacred obligations raises questions about the authenticity of duty and devotion.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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