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Why intense relationships feel like love when they're actually trauma

I keep falling for love bombers because the intensity feels like love but really it just feels like the chaos I grew up in.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system calibrated to intensity mistakes activation for attraction and chaos for chemistry.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

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