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When grieving someone who caused harm creates community confusion

I keep wanting to defend my abusive mother in grief group when I talk about missing her because even though she hurt me I still love her.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The complexity of loving damage finds no easy home in support systems designed for uncomplicated mourning.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief groups and communities?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.