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When past loss creates hypervigilance in new relationships

I love my partner deeply but every time they get sick I become irrationally terrified and controlling because my first wife died of an illness that started small.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Trauma rewires our capacity to trust in the permanence of love, turning normal vulnerabilities into existential threats.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and love — what they share?”

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