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When keeping promises enables others to break them

I promised my ex-husband we would never badmouth each other to our kids but he has been poisoning them against me for months and I do not know if keeping my word is helping anyone.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Unilateral integrity can become a form of self-destruction when the other party abandons the shared covenant.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.