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When you lose yourself trying to be loveable

I realize I've spent my whole marriage trying to earn my husband's approval instead of just being myself and I don't know who I am without his validation.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The performance of worthiness can eclipse authentic connection, leaving both people loving a construction rather than a person.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with What love ultimately is — the examined final question?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.