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Why You Only Want What You Can't Have in Relationships

I realized I only feel attracted to my partner when they're slightly out of reach and when they're fully available I lose interest.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Desire has been conditioned to need the tension of uncertainty, making love's security feel like death to passion.

Ideas that help explain it
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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.