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Why disability grief gets shut down by toxic positivity

I'm disabled and I'm mourning the able-bodied life I'll never have, but everyone tells me to be positive and focus on what I can do instead of what I've lost.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Acquiring disability involves real loss of future possibilities and physical capacities that deserve acknowledgment, not just adaptive celebration.

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