Periagoge
Scenario

When religious law excludes you from mourning rituals

I'm gay and my partner died but because we weren't legally married his Orthodox family won't let me participate in sitting shiva and I don't know how to mourn him properly.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Traditional structures of grief can exile those whose love doesn't fit prescribed forms.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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