I'm gay and my partner died but because we weren't legally married his Orthodox family won't let me participate in sitting shiva and I don't know how to mourn him properly.
More people experience this than they realize.
Traditional structures of grief can exile those whose love doesn't fit prescribed forms.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.