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Why acts of service sometimes feel invisible as love

I've been doing acts of service for my wife for fifteen years - cooking, cleaning, fixing things - but she keeps saying I never tell her I love her, and I feel like she can't see that I'm saying it every day.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

When love is expressed in a language the receiver doesn't speak, both giver and receiver can feel simultaneously generous and deprived.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The love languages — examined critically?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.