My adult son won't forgive me for divorcing his father even though the marriage was miserable and I don't know how to make him understand I had to save myself.
More people experience this than they realize.
The parent's survival conflicts with the child's fantasy of family wholeness, creating an impasse between self-preservation and maternal devotion.
“Where Are You with Repair after conflict?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.